Posts Tagged ‘people’

Keeping Others in Line


10 Aug

I felt a strong urge to say something; to “fix” the situation.  Something felt wrong and I wanted to make it right.  Of course, had I said something, I would have seemed like I was a control-freak – or worse, a jerk.  Afterall, in reality, nothing was wrong.

I was standing in line at a coffee shop.  A couple was placing their order at the counter and there was another couple between the counter and myself.  Either the cashier was really slow, or for some people, ordering coffee is an elaborate process which should require a previously scheduled appointment – regardless, it was taking awhile.  Irritating, yes, but that wasn’t the problem. (more…)

Thou Shalt Judge


05 May

Chris Smith is living with his fiancé, Amy.  Obviously they plan to get married, so they’ve decided to cut down on expenses and save money by paying less rent.  They found an inexpensive one bedroom apartment, and have already been able to save a few thousand dollars towards the wedding. (more…)

A Mean Merry Christmas


14 Dec

Heather, the cashier, says “Happy Holidays!”  in a cheerful tone to the customer just in front of me in line, as she hands over the receipt.  The customer responds in a stern tone with hundreds of words: “MERRY CHRISTMAS!” The man glares at Heather for 45 minutes as he conveys, through his eyes, an essay regarding his frustration with the political correctness of the present world that led her to say the two words she just said.  She offers a stiff smile and glances away at the awkwardness her angry “christian” customer has created. (more…)

Filling in the Gaps


16 Nov

If I have ever been your friend, I still consider you a friend.

Add an enjoyment of writing to strong opinions about faith and politics, and you may have a recipe for offense among friends.  That’s pretty much where I land.

Here’s the thing.  People who enjoy writing tend to write about the things they are most passionate about.  What ends up happening is that you don’t get the opportunity to see the shades of gray within those topics.

Take politics for example.

If I write a blog entry about politics, it will most likely be right-leaning.  I may speak my mind on a particular topic, but not address related topics.  As human as you and I are, here’s what will happen:  You will read the post, you will add to that post other things which you know (or think you know) about me, and then you will fill in the gaps – the missing information – with experiences you’ve had or seen with other right-leaning types.

It’s that latter piece which will deceive your mind into believing something about me which is not true.

Oh, you can’t help it.  It’s what we humans do.  Our minds insist on completing a partial picture.  It is once we have created that picture, likely in an instant, that we can remind ourselves that we have drawn a conclusion that was not stated but rather given a hue from other unrelated experiences; from people whom I may not even know.

I am privileged that some of my closest friends differ greatly from me in their beliefs.  We can respectfully debate, we can passionately disagree, and we can be mature enough to still be friends.

If you don’t see things the same way I do, I don’t think badly of you.  I also don’t think you are any more wrong than you think I am.

If I have ever been your friend, I still consider you a friend.

read about grace in friendships

love, sin (part 2)


08 Oct

Please read “love, sin (part 1)” first

I’m a sinner. I don’t somehow qualify to talk about other peoples’ sins because I believe I’m immune. Do I have contempt for my sin? yes, because I have contempt for sin. So when I hear “love others as yourself,” I don’t believe the Word is speaking of worldly love, but of love that flows from Truth.

As Christians, our desire should be for truth regardless of what feels good or sounds right to us. We can show love to people with tolerance and acceptance, however, it is when that tolerance and acceptance no longer reflects the character of God, that we are no longer showing God’s love and are now participating in worldly love. Two very different things.

To the world, if something I say offends you, then I am not showing you love. In fact, you might even call it “hate”. But if what I said agrees with God’s Word, and it is said with as much gentleness as possible, what should I do? The worldly Christian’s answer might be to choose the pleasure of you over the pleasure of God. That feel-good love is all they know, and the world has taught them that it is the right thing.

The world does not acknowledge sin as sin. The world thinks that the message of the cross is offensive because it exposes sin. The world thinks that the Bible is all about peace and acceptance. The world doesn’t know God and therefore does not understand His love.

All sin of every sort can be forgiven. But God’s Word tells us that we must confess our sins and repent. So where does that leave the person who we’ve left believing that we accept their sin, and in fact support and rally behind their sin?

Robbed, by us, of the Truth.

Showing love (God’s, not the world’s) and gently exposing sin are not mutually exclusive or opposing activities. In the case of worldly love, they are polar opposites. “If you love me, you will accept and support everything about me” is a worldly distortion of love that Christians have bought into. The Biblical Truth is “if you love me, you’ll tell me the Truth.” We see that lived out in letters that the original Christians wrote to believers; showing love through encouragement as well as conveying truth about specific sin.

It is not new that the world attaches themselves to their sins so much that, at times, it seems to be a part of their identity. Shall Christians then embrace sin for fear that the person will feel unloved? No, but we must be gentle. But let us not confuse gentleness with an acceptance of sin, and let us not lie to people about sin and forgiveness.

Satan has accomplished an extraordinarily evil feat if the Church becomes neutral towards sin and forgiveness. Let’s stop helping him.

God’s Word is very clear that Christians should, in fact, deal with sin in the Church (other Christians) ideally after personal confession of those sins, but in some cases where sin is being exalted or hidden, through confrontation.  While reading letters in the New Testament that identify sinful behavior, ask yourself, what is your reaction to fellow Christians who identify specific sins in the same way?  Do you say things like “let he who is without sin cast the first stone?”  Are you aware of what passage you are referring to or is it just a cliche?  If you do, then you will understand that making a correlation between identifying sin and raising a stone, weapon, or fist to kill or physically hurt somebody who sinned is indeed a silly and inaccurate and naive correlation for a Christian to be making.  Clearly violence against some person because of their sin is unacceptable and unnecessary in the eyes of God – as the passage actually portrays.

So what am I saying?  That Christians should be going around pointing out people’s sin? No, not at all. But let’s stop going around supporting sin in the name of worldly love.  Let’s stop selling a watered-down gospel that omits the purpose of the cross.  Let’s stop believing that sin is defined through the subjective filter of our own life experiences, our current time, or our own rules.

The world prefers that we don’t talk about sin, the reason the gospel is important. Unfortunately, it’s a subject that cannot be avoided but should be handled with gentleness, in Truth.

Bill Daniel Johnson

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